-what I learned in life today...
One of my wiser friends said today, that self-esteem is all about
the relationship you have with yourself. How you treat yourself when
nobody else is looking. This is something that I've been trying to
write down for a few days, and finally, thanks to my friend; I have
the words. If you are the type of person that has dreams (and we all
do) and you make yourself goals to meet that dream (which some of
us do) and you make yourself promises to keep those goals (which a
few of us do) and you go back on those promises, you are telling yourself
that you don't love yourself. No matter what justification you can
give yourself for eating that extra piece of cake, having that extra
beer, dodging that assignment, skipping that walk, watching TV instead
of doing that research, skipping the practice; you still know that
you broke your promise to yourself and you still have to sleep with
yourself at night. Justification ONLY DAMAGES your self-esteem. The
more you justify, the lower you grow.
best way, I've found to build myself back up is little by little,
not everything overnight. Its a slow process. But to start small and
build up from there. Just
remember to make promises that can be KEPT. A
couple of little promises a week. Start there and start small. Start
small and grow. The more times I don't have that extra whatever "that
no one will know about" - The better I feel about myself. Thus,
the higher my self-esteem grows.